On Ancestors and the Future

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On Ancestors and the Future


It is the Monday eve of Thanksgiving. I am digging through a recipe box searching for my Mom’s pecan pie recipe. It calls for both bourbon and maple syrup, so you can see why it’s a good one.

I sat down to write a piece about shopping local and using our powerful dollars wisely this holiday season, for they truly do count.  And as much as I believe in supporting our small businesses, the thing that brings me to tears is this recipe box.  It used to be my grandfather’s Guernsey cow record box, back on the dairy farm in Connecticut.  I found an old recipe clipped from our hometown newspaper, faded to yellow.  It was for my grandmother’s holiday sweet rolls, which had been so popular that it made it into the paper.

Frank Calhoun was a Republican, and a state legislator.  Polly was a staunch Democrat.  They were both pillars in the church and the community.  Thanksgiving was a huge event with a minimum of 65 guests at the table.  Everyone who needed a place to go came to the Calhouns’.  It was a lovely and important tradition, one which I sorely miss.

I have been thinking a lot about whose shoulders we have stood upon to get where we are today.  I so wish I could sit down at their old farm table by the wood stove and get some advice and perspective about how we move forward in this world.  I imagine Polly and Frank would say keep working hard.  Keep taking care of the land. Keep an open place at the table for anyone who needs it.  Keep loving a Republican. Keep loving a Democrat.  Keep baking sweet rolls and share them with everyone you know.  Oh, and spend your hard-earned dollars wisely.  Happy Thanksgiving to all.

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  • With gratitude, thank you for sharing that we can all sit at the same table. Big love,
    John McKee

  • And keep neighboring (as a verb).

  • I love your energy and worthy business for what makes our communities, Montana, and country best!

  • I would believe you Sarah: to be the text book “leads with her heart / forward thinker” who saves a spot at her stage for 18,000 people to gather and create memories that will last a lifetime. I believe Polly and Frank would be very proud. Happy Thanksgiving.

  • Linda H. Small
    March 23, 2023 5:10 pm

    And i can still smell the glorious smell of bread baking in Lil’s house on one of my first visits to that house! Totally differnt ecosystem than CT but with the same values! I remember Rix and Verda went to hear the Nearings at Lil’s when i was about 8 years old. now i live in ME with a lot of Yankee fishermen and fisherwomen doing their bit for keeping those values going. Hats off, Sarah!


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